tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post1666347828124186811..comments2024-01-18T04:42:47.809-06:00Comments on BitterGrace Notes: A purely personal postBitterGracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18262639525430954930noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-72134272954005276672010-02-22T21:39:13.418-06:002010-02-22T21:39:13.418-06:00I like what you wrote - ". . .honoring all th...I like what you wrote - ". . .honoring all that cannot be resolved."<br /><br />I think it's a dangerous mythology that we can resolve everything, and that time heals all wounds. Wounds and scars are marks of our humanity. Time may indeed heal, but it only softens, and that is fine with me.Julie H. Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18370626312151913595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-67572815549623558832010-02-20T17:54:25.530-06:002010-02-20T17:54:25.530-06:00Thank you, Alyssa--and I'll remind you at regu...Thank you, Alyssa--and I'll remind you at regular intervals to tell me about the reading. Sounds like a story I need to hear.BitterGracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18262639525430954930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-82809230058057118042010-02-20T17:07:23.913-06:002010-02-20T17:07:23.913-06:00I love this.
But Sharon Olds -- I have mixed fee...I love this. <br /><br />But Sharon Olds -- I have mixed feelings about her. Mostly because of one spectacularly and wholly unintentionally funny reading I attended. Remind me to tell you someday...<br /><br />Anyway. Without complicated feelings about fathers most of classic Western literature wouldn't exist. I'm glad you can cherish and value yours, Maria--the father and the feelings.Alyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08651065872724626149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-52385083605406615452010-02-19T18:36:52.195-06:002010-02-19T18:36:52.195-06:00Hmm, I dithered about even posting this, but now I...Hmm, I dithered about even posting this, but now I'm glad I did. The cultural pressure is all toward resolving our complicated feelings about family, but I'm more in favor of honoring all that cannot be resolved.BitterGracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18262639525430954930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-18361361752847317022010-02-19T09:06:51.963-06:002010-02-19T09:06:51.963-06:00"Sweet sentiments have their place, but when ..."Sweet sentiments have their place, but when it comes to memories I prefer mine messy and complicated." <br /><br />Maybe I didn't know up until the moment I read that that I've always had a craving for a simple feeling for my father. Which is not what I have. But the thought that <i>wanting</i> it to be complicated is a new one to me, and maybe with that something might shift.<br /><br />Thank you for the Sharon Olds poem- wow!! She is just so good...The Left Coast Nosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10102549295051352579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-1402553931256120272010-02-19T08:28:41.909-06:002010-02-19T08:28:41.909-06:00Ah, my dear.
Fathers.....
I'm with you.
Not ...Ah, my dear.<br />Fathers.....<br /><br />I'm with you.<br /><br />Not to sound callous, by any means-<br />But I believe that the distance, and time factors- tend to help with the sense of clarity.<br /><br />It is dreadfully difficult to be clear about those 'larger than life' figures up close.<br /><br />(((((( Maria )))))<br /><br />Love you, and your fine heart and mind.chayaruchamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04889166567884475415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-10271883572277134152010-02-19T08:26:14.913-06:002010-02-19T08:26:14.913-06:00He certainly had a smart daughter.He certainly had a smart daughter.Bozonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-37937152373512666542010-02-19T08:03:16.921-06:002010-02-19T08:03:16.921-06:00I know what you mean. I guess one never stops tryi...I know what you mean. I guess one never stops trying to figure it all out.Olfactahttp://olfactarama.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-16287315614636517132010-02-19T01:17:19.603-06:002010-02-19T01:17:19.603-06:00Awesome photo. And real memories too.Awesome photo. And real memories too.Leenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-27191174150802630622010-02-18T20:26:33.813-06:002010-02-18T20:26:33.813-06:00The list of your father's "likes" is...The list of your father's "likes" is most evocative. <br /><br />Your terseness always impresses me!Julie H. Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18370626312151913595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7039707457010939097.post-1899912137186034472010-02-18T20:12:59.632-06:002010-02-18T20:12:59.632-06:00Maria,
I appreciate your clear eyed view of your f...Maria,<br />I appreciate your clear eyed view of your father--as a flawed man. An unsentimental and not judgemental or angry post. Thank you for showing us how to do it.<br />another wiht a complicated fther.<br />lynn pUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09734263502360891763noreply@blogger.com